Self respect plays a major role in determining the quality of love you experience. The kind of love you attract is hardly an accident both in friendship, relationship and courtship.
It is not the timing or luck or how attractive you are,
it is a reflection of how you see yourself, and how you treat yourself.
Most times the chance of you having a bad or good experience in your relationships
depends on what you believe you deserve.
Understanding Self Respect in Relationships
Self respect and love are deeply connected. Self respect is holding yourself in high esteem,
being interested in only the things that are best for you, the ability to honor your needs,
values and emotional boundaries even when doing so feels uncomfortable and extreme.
Loving yourself enough to let go of people that make you question your self worth
no matter how much it hurts you.
Self love is being self aware. You know letting go emotionally will not be as easy as letting go physically
but you do it any ways because you only care about protecting your feelings.
Self respect in relationships is not selfishness in fact, getting rid of things that will disrupt your life
and weakens the walls of your emotions is one of the most selfless thing you can do for yourself.
Freezing your feelings for your brains to take over, believing actions and not words or empty promises.
What Self Respect Means in Love
Being in love and having self respect means you do not abandon yourself to be or feel loved,
you do not minimize or shrink your feelings to keep someone comfortable,
you do not tolerate behaviors that embarrass, disrespect or wound you just because you fear being alone or unloved.
Or being without that one person you claim is the love of your life.
Self respect in relationships is choosing clarity over confusion, peace over sleepless nights,
choosing the now over the thought of what will be.
Many people confuse self respect with high standards, but in reality,
it has little to do with demanding perfection from others and more about refusing to accept what consistently hurts you.
You no longer tolerate mixed signals, emotional illiteracy and unavailability. So you understands that love and attraction without respect leads to unhealthy attachment, and that love cannot be genuine.
You Attract What You Accept
One of the loudest truth about self respect is that people often attract the behavior they condole. When self respect is low, it becomes easier to accept the things that will ruin you and your mental health. Emotional inconsistency, emotional neglect and lack of effort.
There is a reason people often find themselves in the same situation over and over again. They are stuck in a loop because they refuse to acknowledge their worth.
If you believe you are too much or your needs are too much you
will attract people who treat you as an option.
If you believe love must be earned through sacrifice you will attract people who will only
take from you without giving back.
When your tolerance for poor behavior changes, the kind of people who stays in your life changes too.
Partners who thinks they are too cool to be with you but are with you
anyways just so they can constantly thrive on your willingness to stay small and makes jokes about you,
they like that they tower over you and that you take it.
Being with you shrink their pathetic nature and sometimes they take them being a loser out
on you because they know you will let them so they continue to treats you like they are the
only man/woman on earth.
Building Emotional Boundaries
When you have self respect in relationships attraction shifts towards communication, consistency and emotional safety.
You stop falling for potentials and start choosing partners who actions matches their words. You set emotional boundaries.
Emotional boundaries are one of the clearest expression of self respect in relationships. These boundaries defines how others treat you.
You communicate your needs clearly and follow through when those boundaries are ignored. Only those who listen and are capable of healthy love remains.
And if they don’t it is not your loss, they have saved you from series of traumatic experience.
When you know your worth, the love you attract becomes calm, safe and warmer. You wont constantly see the need to over explain or crave validation, you stop caring less about being heard.
It’s Never Too Late to Reclaim Your Worth
And if you think you have missed it, you think you have gone far too deep into settling and
even getting to the point of thinking you deserve less or less is safe.
It is not too late to sit back up.
If you have to watch videos, read books for you to get inclined with getting back your self esteem,
self respect and worth, then nothing should stop you from doing it,
because self love is the ultimate kind of love.
When you love yourself enough you see yourself doing all it takes to maintain
that flow of peace and balance that comes with it.
Suddenly that’s all that matters and you will value it so much you would
want nothing more than to keep it.
